Sabr

Living a life or a night with 2 feels like a battle everyday. There are no guided materials, no manuals. Just pure trial and error. 

EMO SHIFTS. 

I distinctively anticipating the late nights and not sleeping before mini bam came out. What I did not see coming was the emotions post birth. Postpartum mood swings are not a myth guys. The sudden low self esteem, moody and anger comes round especially when I am exhausted. 

Thankfully, I have always been a night bird so the nights were a breeze most times.  But when this mama gets all sleepy sometimes,  the stress level is unbelievable. I even cry it out at times. And when that happens, you know you just need to get away for a minute. 

UP ALL NIGHT. 

One thing we moms hate is how our loved ones( particularly the husband ) can have such a peaceful sleep and yet we don't. Yes, my husband does help out here and there but still, he gets to recuperate whenever he could and gets at least a 4-6 hour uninterrupted sleep everyday. Is life of a mom unfair or what? We only get naps in between and that's if the little one does not feed every half hour. 

SHUT UP ALREADY

When you first have a child, there are bound to be elders or those who think they know it all, that will question your parenting. Why you do this..? Why you do that..? Why don't you try.. ? I mean if there is any reason that we moms need advise, we WILL ask. Otherwise, opinions are never needed. With the postpartum emotions, I do not need any selfish opinions for now. Period.  Honestly, it's more disheartening than anger when you voice out. It's like telling me I am not good enough. So,stop. 

THE ANTIDOTE. 

So, I figured that we are constantly falling into satan's traps that will make us feel angrier and uncontrollable about our emotions. We are so ignorant about the perks and the pahala we'll get everytime we wake up for a feed or try to control our anger. And every drop of milk we give to our child counts. Masyaallah. 

It's not that we don't like to be around others. It's just that we need more time than we think we do, so bear with us while we get better. 

So moms, everytime you feel angry and uncontrollable, breathe and istighfar. Islam teaches us to be patient in more ways than one. Look at your child/children and think about how you and your man brought such beautiful lives to this world and that you will love them and cherish them till the end of your lives. With the opinions of others, try to refrain from getting too emotional and affected. Take every comment constructively and if necessary, give yourself a moment to digest everything in slowly. It may be tougher than it sounds but if you strongly believe in your faith and in Allah swt, he will guide you to be as patient as possible. Insyaallah.