Procrastination and discipline 101

I admit, I am a very big procrastinator when it comes to writing these days. I used to be so active and could write about simply everything but now it seems so hard. 

There are a few reasons as to why. 

Firstly, I am no longer reliant on my very reliable laptop as it died on me like so many months ago.

Two,I have less time for myself as I am preoccupied with 2 extra lovable babies in my life. My attention is diverted whole heartedly to them whenever I am off duty. 

Three, I have inadequate ideas and inspiration as to what to write these days. I may have an idea or two when I am not online but as soon as I get online and going, I have writer's block and I will forget about it entirely.

So,this is me, trying to get myself up and writing again after what seems like a decade in blogworld. 

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Leaving the year. 

2016 went past full speed as far as I remembered. I conceived and gave birth to another life, gone back to work for about 2 months now. Met James Marsden aka Cyclops while working and managed to get a photographic evidence, skipped another promotion because I was not into advancing yet at my workplace as I am still familiarizing with my current position, managed to secure a slot for bambina at the school of our choice and she aced her first weeks; we are very proud parents F and I. 

And I guess that sums up where I left off. 

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Disciplinary issues 101

My first daughter, Adrianna is very strong spirited nowadays. She expresses her feelings in ways that may be out of control at times. I keep reminding myself that this behaviour is temporary and is just an act of emotions. The screams and tantrums are real. It is a daily challenge for my mum, F and me. It can be tough and easy at the same time but we remind each other that we have to stay positive and not give into such behaviour easily. I admit, that I sometimes get carried away by scolding and punishing her, but I begin to feel that no matter how much I scold or punish, it will only push her further away from me. She will try and test my limits as to how much I can take .I sometimes gave in to my feelings too much and take hers for granted. I tend to forget that my responses are being observed and watched by this little one who is constantly seeking attention. 

As a mother, it is definitely not an easy job controlling and being patient,but Adrianna enlightens me everyday. Although she is just turning 3 in a few months, she has taught me what life is made of. I admit that she can tick me off easily with just one move, but it has tested my faith and patience all this while. I kept reminding myself of my real intentions and responsibilities as a mother and the life Allah SWT has designed  for me. Adrianna has made me realized how much of a mother I can be to her and no matter what, she will always look up to me. 

Masyaallah, I can never thank Him enough and realized how big I can be to this little person I call my first daughter. 

I have summarized 3 things while dealing with my "terrific two" daughter. 

1) Always stay grounded and cool. No matter how much she tries to push you and your emotions, stay calm. Istighfar, and deal with it nicely. Children never listen when you scream and shout, they listen when you talk normally but in a firm tone. 

2) If you accidentally scold her out of rage, talk to her afterwards, tell her why you were angry and speak like you're speaking to an adult. You will be surprised how much she absorbs. 

3) Stay positive. Never let your feelings come in the way, Always always think of Allah SWT and speak positive connotations. Give her lots of love by embracing and telling them how much you love them. 

We always think that every child is different and everyone behaves differently. What we do not know is that actually the solutions to all our disciplinary problems are all the same. Our approach and how we deal with our kids explains our own upbringing. 

May Allah SWT guide us and ease our journey in raising our children. Insyaallah